Eid, weddings and condolences

Family occasions are where tradition is strongest. Knowing what to wear, say and do lets you take part with confidence.

Eid

• Eid begins with special prayers. People wear new or festive clothes and, at Eid al Fitr, eat a few dates before going to prayer.
• Greet people with 'Eid Mubarak' or 'Taqabbal Allah minna wa minkum' (may God accept from us and from you).
• After prayers, families visit neighbours and relatives.
• Eidiya: elders give children money, often in colourful envelopes. As you grow older, you may start giving eidiya to younger cousins yourself.
• Hosts prepare 'Eid fawwala': sweets, dates, nuts, fruit, juice and Arabic coffee for visitors.

Emirati weddings

• Men and women usually celebrate separately. The women's celebration is often larger and longer; the men's is simpler.
• Weddings can have hundreds or even 500 to 1,000 guests. Guests are welcomed with Arabic coffee, tea and dates.
• No photography at women's celebrations unless the family clearly allows it; never share photos from them.
• If the groom enters the women's celebration, women are given warning and time to put on their shaylas or abayas if they wish.
• Dress at your most elegant, respecting the modesty of the occasion.
• Guest gift customs vary between families; ask a relative what is usual rather than guessing.

Condolences (azza)

• By custom, condolences are received over three days, with separate areas for men and women.
• Wear dark, simple clothes (black or grey). Avoid bright make-up, nail polish and decorative jewellery.
• Do not bring flowers or gifts; flowers belong to happy occasions. Offering practical help is appreciated.
• What to say: 'A'zam Allah ajrak' (may God magnify your reward), or the Quranic phrase 'Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un' (to God we belong and to Him we return). Simple, sincere words are enough.
• Keep your visit fairly short, speak quietly, and keep your phone away.
• Close family and friends often prepare food for the bereaved family so they do not have to cook.