Etiquette · Lesson 3 of 21 · 8 min
Titles and forms of address
Using the right title shows respect and preparation. Getting it wrong is rarely a disaster, but getting it right is noticed.
Everyday titles
- Mr for men; Ms for women when you do not know their preference (Mrs and Miss are used when the person uses them).
- Use the title with the surname: 'Mr Khan', never 'Mr Ahmed' if Ahmed is his first name, unless that is how he introduces himself.
- Use first names only when invited to, or when the person introduces themselves that way.
Academic titles
- Write 'Dear Dr Smith' or 'Dear Professor Smith'.
- Never say 'Professor' plus a first name, and do not use 'Doctor' without a surname in writing.
- If a tutor signs their emails with only their first name, that usually means you may use it. Until then, stay formal.
- People with a PhD are addressed as Doctor plus their name, just like medical doctors.
Senior officials
- Ambassadors and ministers are styled 'His/Her Excellency' (HE) in many countries, including the UAE.
- Gulf royal and ruling-family titles (Sheikh, Sheikha, Your Highness) are covered in the Emirati Etiquette module.
When you are unsure
- Ask: 'How would you like me to address you?' is always polite.
- Listen to how others address the person, and copy the most formal version.
- Err on the formal side. It is easy to relax later; it is awkward to go back.
Practise in real life
Tick each one off when you have done it.
- Look up the correct title and spelling of one teacher, one university admissions officer and one family friend you might write to this year.
- Draft an email opening line to a professor whose name you found on a university website.
Remember
- Title + surname until invited otherwise.
- Never 'Professor Firstname'.
- When unsure, be more formal and ask.
Check yourself
1. How should you open an email to a lecturer called Dr Sarah Jones?
2. Your tutor signs emails 'Best, Tom'. What does that usually signal?
3. When unsure how formal to be, you should:
4. Which is incorrect?